Monogamy works for many couples, but sometimes we want to break away from monogamy practices and indulge in open relationship exploration. Of course, this only works if both parties are on board; otherwise, it is just considered cheating. If you are ready to have fun with people outside of your relationship, you should consider swinging. This is a practice of exchanging partners with other people in committed relationships and is a good first step to see whether an open relationship would be a good fit for you.
However, if you are interested in trying out swinging, there are some things you need to consider first. Swinging comes with its own set of unspoken rules, and it is good that you are familiar with the practices overall. Swinging is all about sharing sexual partners with other couples and even singles. It involves swapping partners, group sex, and even the cuckold fetish. It all really comes down to each individual’s personal preferences because swinging can vary a lot. However, swinging is not about polyamory. This is about committed couples who are open to new experiences but still want to stay loyal to their partners.
Communication is important
If you are interested in having a fun and successful swinging experience where nobody’s feelings get hurt, it is important to learn how to properly communicate your feelings to your partner. Swinging is all about trusting each other, so you need to make sure that you and your partner are on the same page. The first step is to have an honest conversation with your partner about swinging and whether they would be down to trying something like this.
Establish boundaries
As was mentioned, swinging comes in many forms. Some couples love to go all out and exchange partners fully, while others prefer to watch their partner get fucked while they masturbate. It is important to establish boundaries with your partner and learn what they are willing and what they are not willing to do. The same applies to the people you were hoping to swing with. What kind of sex are you okay with? Do you prefer full foreplay, heavy petting, or full swinging?
For beginners, you might want to start by exchanging partners during foreplay. See how you feel when you watch your significant other get sexually satisfied by another person without any actual intercourse. Once the two of you are horny, you can swap partners back and enjoy having sex together. After getting more comfortable with this, you can try other versions of swapping. If you are completely new to the swinging lifestyle, searching videos could help!
Have a signal
If you are swinging for the first time, it is a good idea to come up with a signal, something that can immediately get you out of that situation. Sometimes swinging can be incredibly exciting, but it is not for everyone. It is completely natural to feel embarrassed and want to get out of the situation mid-way. You should not go through the swinging experience unless you are 100% that that is what you want. Thus, having a signal is a good idea. Simply signal to your partner if you are uncomfortable and you just wish to stop.
Safe sex is important
Whether you are swinging with close friends or you are doing it with complete strangers, practicing safe sex is important. It is always better to be safe than sorry, so make sure that you use rubber. Of course, having partners who regularly test for STDs is a good idea, but don’t do anything unless you are sure that the other party is clean. If you have even an ounce of doubt, it is always better to use condoms.
Meet new like-minded people
After finding people you are comfortable with, do not hesitate to search for new partners as well. It is completely fine to go swinging with the same couple from time to time, but you should try and branch out, too. There are many popular swingers’ clubs and parties you could attend. A lot of those places do not require you to actually go swinging; they are open to newcomers who just want to learn more about the fetishes. Usually, newcomers get a free entrance as well!
In case you are planning to attend parties, do not forget to bring condoms and to stick to your partner. Swinging can be incredibly fun when done with groups of people, but you never know what can happen. If you are inexperienced with swinging, you should stick together for the first couple of parties. Communication is key, as it was mentioned, and you should establish your boundaries. Swinging is not fun unless you feel safe!
Keeping an erection is difficult sometimes
If you are attending your first swinging experience and you have difficulty keeping an erection, do not worry. This is something that happens to many, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. You can still use your other assets to help women feel good! The first time can be nerve-wracking, which is usually the reason why your fellow might go flaccid. But do not let that stop you from having a lot of naughty fun.
Etiquette must be followed
First-timers need to do their research. Learn more about swinging and the usual etiquette that needs to be followed. Swinging clubs, conventions, and parties will often have their rules published beforehand. You need to follow those rules! The usual swinging rules will include the etiquette about nudity, alcohol, drugs, RSVPing, and other things. Keep in mind that if you can purchase a ticket to a swinging event online, then you can find the rules and etiquette online as well. Make sure to study all the rules that need to be followed with your partner. Swinging is a great way to spice up your sex life and bring something new and exciting to a monogamous relationship. Last but not least, keep in mind that swinging is not for everyone, and that’s okay!