My husband is crippled and unable to have sex anymore. It took a long time to adjust to not having sex and although it sounds like I’m being selfish, I have spent many years like this, unable to get myself sexual satisfaction. However, my husband is a good man, and he asked me about it, and actually assumed that I had been having sex elsewhere anyway. When I told him I hadn’t he was mortified and decided that the best thing I could do would be to get myself some form of sexual entertainment. We were always very liberated sexually, but I never thought I’d hear him saying this. I guess this is what love is?
We looked into sex contacts on the internet and found it quite popular and easy to get involved in. I didn’t really want to do anything special, just maybe feel a man against my body again. I wanted him to be a good man, yet someone who understood my problem and didn’t encroach on my private life with my husband. Well, as it turns out, this is exactly what the sex contacts websites all had in common; they encouraged you to simply have sexual relationships. I found a guy and I’ve managed to maintain a healthy sex life with him without putting any strain at all on my marriage. My husband and I are still intimate in some ways, but never to the level I get from my sex contact.
You must understand however, as much as I enjoy having sex with my contact, I do not love him at all. I care about him and know a little about it, but not much. This is my choice and I like to keep this distance between us. Not only does it allow my marriage to remain unaffected by silly details, it also makes the sexual encounters that little bit more thrilling; the guy still feels like a stranger and I’ve found that I like that a lot. Who says you need to have sex with your husband all the time to make a marriage work? We are very happy together and I honestly think that even if it wasn’t for the accident, we may well have looked into this kind of sex contact service as a couple anyway; it isn’t as if we haven’t experimented before.
Some people I’ve chatted to via the online sex contacts websites have many partners out there and they like to swap around a little every now and then. I can see the fun element of this, but personally I think that if I was to do this it might be pushing the boundaries of my marriage. I went into the sex contacts world to find one man who I could see occasionally for no strings sex and that’s what I got; I really don’t think I’d be interested in a string of lovers, I don’t have the time or the energy!